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June 8th, 2011 (04:04 pm)

Isn't it funny when nice people post blatantly fatphobic things to the Internet without the slightest bit of awareness that they might be doing something douchey? It's like they think, hey, if I can't see you being fat on the other end of this Internet connection, I couldn't possibly be insulting you! Or anyone else!*

I love you, all my fat friends, and I like the way you look. I'm tired of seeing you be sad over these things and I'm tired of being sad over these things.

Chins up, Kylie.

And, incidentally, I don't want apologies because then I have to say it's okay, and it all gets uncomfortable and I'm sick of being uncomfortable. You be uncomfortable for a change, fat-shamers. Don't apologize and for Christ's sake don't explain. Just cut it out.

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*I mean, don't worry, anyway; I'm sure you're not that kind of fat. You wear it really well, I bet! And even if you don't we all love you because of your personality. You don't have to be pretty the same way that the people I'm insulting are supposed to be pretty! You're different because you're my friend and I'm never casually cruel to my friends.

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Posted by: Tasha Rebekah Martin (lietya)
Posted at: June 9th, 2011 03:27 am (UTC)

YES. This.

I'm especially disappointed when it's someone who otherwise seems very with it about bigotry and privilege (this isn't the "fat people are the last group it's OK to abuse" trope, so much as that I have that disappointment every time someone like that suddenly turns on a different Them in any context).

"You're different because you're my friend and I'm never casually cruel to my friends."

And that, too, sums up how it's possible for people to just keep doing this, whenever it's some group they're not part of being made the target for douchebaggery.

I've got someone eating up my Twitter feed with this bullshit right now, so your post is excellently timed; she and those she gets going on the subject not *quite* talking about how other people being fat is as disgusting and reprehensible as themselves, but it's pretty strongly implied. And I'd bet that if I took her comments and substituted in [minority group she's part of] for "fat people," she'd be apoplectic with outrage.

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