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January 24th, 2008 (12:30 am)
thoughtful

current mood: thoughtful

"In a perfect world, no teenager would be having sex. We all know there isn't a 15-year-old alive who is ready emotionally, physically, spiritually, or financially to live with the consequences." -Nancy Keenan, NARAL president*

I find it very hard to decide whether I agree with that or not. I mean, okay, so I know that the statement as it reads is dumb - the statement that there "isn't a 15-year-old alive" who's ready for sex is ridiculous - but I'm thinking of it less on a literal level, and wondering more about generalities. Is it true that there is only a statistically negligible percentage of fifteen-year-olds who are ready for sex at fifteen? Can we make the blanket statement that teenagers should not have sex? Even if I concede the issue on ideological grounds, I'm not sure it has any contact with a reality in which teenagers' sex drives start to run amok when they hit fourteen or fifteen. But my question goes beyond that; I'm honestly not sure that I agree that teenagers are almost inevitably too immature for sex. I should figure out whether I do agree. It would be helpful knowledge in writing the Beth book.

Anyway, I posted it because if y'all want to discuss, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Comment away.

*Quote is a passing remark in this link, leading to a Slate article that I find interesting, thought-provoking, and somewhat shallow and poorly considered in its own approach to the subject. I feel that way about a whole lot of Slate articles.

Comments

Posted by: electric misfit love machine (eyelid)
Posted at: January 24th, 2008 03:52 pm (UTC)

I still prefer the "teens shouldn't be having sex,

but why shouldn't they? ...I think is the point.

Posted by: Blue (hobbitblue)
Posted at: January 24th, 2008 07:39 pm (UTC)
facepalm

Good point, I wasn't clear, I was expanding on what *should* follow the "they shouldn't be doing it" mantra, don't seem to get anybody saying why shouldn't they, let them alone, exploration is good so I missed the fact I missed it, if that makes sense?

Edit: ack, still not saying what I mean. I disagree with the idea that teens shouldn't have sex, and I disagree with the initial statement giving a blanket assumption that being 15 means one is incapable of all the necessary things, also the assumption one will need a financial input because of course its going to result in pregnancy, and I bet that mainly applies to girls not boys. The only time I'd agree with "shouldn't" is with the extras I added instead of a blanket "thou shalt not, ever, and we'll keep it all a secret so you'll not be tempted".

Edited at 2008-01-24 07:46 pm (UTC)

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