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January 24th, 2008 (12:30 am)
thoughtful

current mood: thoughtful

"In a perfect world, no teenager would be having sex. We all know there isn't a 15-year-old alive who is ready emotionally, physically, spiritually, or financially to live with the consequences." -Nancy Keenan, NARAL president*

I find it very hard to decide whether I agree with that or not. I mean, okay, so I know that the statement as it reads is dumb - the statement that there "isn't a 15-year-old alive" who's ready for sex is ridiculous - but I'm thinking of it less on a literal level, and wondering more about generalities. Is it true that there is only a statistically negligible percentage of fifteen-year-olds who are ready for sex at fifteen? Can we make the blanket statement that teenagers should not have sex? Even if I concede the issue on ideological grounds, I'm not sure it has any contact with a reality in which teenagers' sex drives start to run amok when they hit fourteen or fifteen. But my question goes beyond that; I'm honestly not sure that I agree that teenagers are almost inevitably too immature for sex. I should figure out whether I do agree. It would be helpful knowledge in writing the Beth book.

Anyway, I posted it because if y'all want to discuss, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Comment away.

*Quote is a passing remark in this link, leading to a Slate article that I find interesting, thought-provoking, and somewhat shallow and poorly considered in its own approach to the subject. I feel that way about a whole lot of Slate articles.

Comments

Posted by: Underwear Ninja (chavvah)
Posted at: January 24th, 2008 04:31 pm (UTC)
tubetop of justice

I don't believe that, as a society, we question whether boys are ready for sex enough.

I agree. I think it's all part of that attitude that all of the responsibility is the girl's. I mean, how many teen comedies are there that have sex as the ultimate goal for a group of teenage males?

Posted by: Gemma (teacupdiaries)
Posted at: January 24th, 2008 04:49 pm (UTC)

Exactly.

And it makes no sense. Sure, women get pregnant, men don't, and the system still isn't good at forcing men to be responsible for helping to create a life, but STDs are just as problematic for men as they are for women. Not teaching boys about these issues is hugely irresponsible.

I'm so tired of this being a 'woman's issue'.

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